How do you define friendship?
To me friendship means being there for someone. No matter what. No matter when. Friendship means to give and take. A friend is someone you can rely on and someone who knows that you will always be there for him in return.
A friend is someone you look forward to seeing even if you don't. A friend loves you even though he knows all your flaws. A friend will tell you everything and you will listen. And in return you will be able to talk about anything and he will listen.
Someone you can laugh with. Someone to share you tears, fears and sorrow. He will give you a shoulder to cry on and in return you will do the same for him. Because we all need a shoulder every now and then.
A friend doesn't judge - he will accept your actions even if he would do it differently, but he will tell you. A friend should be honest, even if it may sometimes hurt when someone speaks the truth. But from a friend we don't take it personally and we don't act hurt.
I used to have a favorite song with my best friend from high school - sadly our paths went separate ways after graduating and we never got close again. We do see each other sometimes, walk past one another, say hi, and that's it. It's sad, really. I miss a friend like her.
Now that I am in my late 30's it's so hard to make friends. The few I have are mostly the type of people who only talk about themselves all the time and never listen to me. They don't ever really ask how I am. And if I try telling them, they don't hear it.
I am a listener. I always have an open ear for anyone. I react to what they say. I give advice. I show that I understand and I stand by their side through hard times. I want that, too. I want someone to listen to me.
Do they assume I am fine all the time or why don't they ever listen? Why doesn't it occur to them that I might be going through a low sometimes as well and have the need to talk. I just don't get it. Why is it always just the taking part I get in a friendship? What am I doing wrong?
How do you feel about friendship? Are you the giving part as well?